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Dealing with Sibling Rivalry

Siblings have a unique relationship within a family, because they are typically close in age and may believe that they share the same problems. However, siblings can also be very competitive. Research has shown that as teens handle disagreements with their siblings, they also learn important skills:

• how to value another person's perspective,
• how to compromise and negotiate,
• how to measure their own worth,
• how to argue,
• how to control aggressive impulses.

How can parents deal with sibling rivalry?

Set an example. The way parents resolve problems and disagreements sets a strong example for teens. It's essential that parents work through conflicts in a way that is respectful, productive, and not aggressive. Celebrate the times when your teen tries their hardest along with the times that they win. If both of your teens are competing in a basketball tournament and one comes in first place and the other second, celebrate them both equally. They both tried their hardest and did a great job.

Respect teen individuality. To ease tensions between their teens, parents need to acknowledge each sibling's special attributes and avoid making comparisons between siblings. Parents should also avoid scolding one child in front of the other. Parents should find time to spend with each of their children individually. Take them to events or participate in activities that they enjoy.

Do not get involved in disputes but guide them. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents should remain impartial and encourage siblings to work out their differences. It's a good idea for parents set guidelines when letting them work out their problems. For example, don't let arguments get out of control or become violent. By letting them work things out, teens can be taught to consider the consequences of their actions, think of alternative solutions to the problem, evaluate the alternative solutions, and decide on the right action

Appreciate when your teen solves problems or cooperates with siblings. Take time to praise your teen when they are able to work out a problem. This will enhance cooperation and help with future conflicts. Recognize your children when they cooperate with each other. Encourage them to build relationships in which they appreciate each other's talents and differences. Teach them to overcome their competitive nature and celebrate each others achievements.

Spend time together as a family and with each of your children individually. Family activities can reduce conflict, so establish an activity or a special day when your kids can spend time together and relate to each other. This can help ease tensions between them. Teens that come from families who spend quality time together have a much greater ability to problem solve, negotiate and compromise than those from families who do not